Is there magic to what makes some relationships last longer than others? Maybe. Do some people just sit back and sulk, while others seem to let life go by right over their heads and problems? It sure seems so. Or maybe its just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships. 1. REFRESH Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!) 2. DATES Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre. 3. FUN Couple tend to have fun on dates, then get married and too serious. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of card or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games. 4. FORGET No need to always remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively forget sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it! 5. SPACE Give each other some space. Either you trust or you dont. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space. 6. DISAGREE Agree that its okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You dont HAVE to agree on everything. And you wont. And thats okay. 7. MEMORIES Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on the, playing cards, toss pillowsover time it becomes a theme. So dont just sit back and sulk. Take short steps to improve your relationships and let lifes problems magically pass by while you hold on to your relationship. |
