While personally speaking, one night stands have never appealed to me, I know of several men who would not mind indulging in a bit of casual sex without any hope or binding that it should culminate in a serious relationship. As a general rule, men do not have too many hang-ups about such indulgences.
There are a lot of women too, who are not keen on getting into any commitment and can agree to this kind of casual sex with their dating partners. There are very heavy chances though, that during your dating life, you will get into a situation, what I term as reverse-payback. This means that while you get mentally attached to a woman who you indulged with, for a quickie, but before you know it, she has left you.
If your sole aim is to have these one night stands, go ahead, indulge, but prepare yourself with a stronger head and a steadier mind. While there are enough women not too keen on commitments, but have casual sex as a mode of having fun, they are essentially however, looking for the same standards from men , as other women : dignity, trust and that magical spark called attraction, except, may be in different amounts.
If you are seriously contemplating to indulge only in these casual sex encounters, you have to hype up your seduction powers: abundance of humor, charm and the ability to tease your way through, so that your plan bears fruit faster. From a public arena, move quickly to a more private, romantic and secluded place, where you can communicate with her one-to-one. While you move her away from the public glare, pump up your seducing prowess to the hilt. The two should be worked out simultaneously to make that magic happen.
In case you are in a quandary, as to which women to select for such a sexual escapade, the right target are those women who you have an instant chemistry with. Through the right communication, glances, touches, the instant chemistry clicks and you have found the right person. Please dont judge these women as easy or cheap it is simply that they are readily available at that moment.
One cant deny that ever so often we meet such women, with whom just the eye contact, spells instant attraction and we have that butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling from that moment. But beware, such women fall in to the far side of the range from super-easy to super-rigid and all along you must have to practice the basic principles of self-discipline and controlled behavior.
How you manage a one night stand depends primarily on your personality and your requirements. There are many instances where a one night stand has culminated in a brief romantic interlude. Please note that it is indeed hard to graduate from a one night quickie and glide into a steady, trusted and stable relationship. The basis of almost all short to long term relationships is, a far more lengthier period of romancing rather than jumping into frenetic sex.
It is beneficial for you to remember one basic fact: honesty is the best policy, even in bed! While you are in the seduction process, be honest and truthful about your intentions, face up to whatever you are committing do not glib talk your way through right into her bed or panties ! For the simple reason, lies ultimately dont take you anywhere.
Not only is deception dishonorable, you do get paid back in your own coin, sooner or later. I am not scaring you with concepts of bad karma but as an adult, you know that every action you take today, will pave the way for your tomorrow, and many tomorrows. |
